Break Free & Act Like It

It happens over and over.
Same cycle. Same complaint.
Talking about your woman, your relationship, your issues, your insecurities like you're helpless—like you want to be stuck.
 
But do you?
Do you really want to stay trapped in the same cycles?
The same toxic patterns?
The same lack of problem solving?
The same pride?
Aren't you tired of it?
 
Because it sounds like you’re feeding off the dysfunction.
Feeding your own doubt.
Feeding your own fear.
And then trying to serve it up to other people like it’s wisdom.
Like it's a meal that will nourish you.
 

Let me tell you something—that ain’t food.
It’s poison.
It will kill your mood.
It will kill your relationship.
It will kill your growth.
It will kill your destiny.
 
You're out here spreading negativity like it's going to help you process.
But all you're doing is destroying the very gift God gave you.
Stop feeding that to yourself.
And stop feeding it to others.
 
Because you know what should come out of your mouth?
Gratitude.
Honor.
Edification.
You should be uplifting your woman.
Anything coming out of your mouth should reflect gratitude.
“I’ve got a good woman, and this is why she’s good.”
Speak that. Feed that. Let that come to life.
Breathe life into her.
Lift her up.
 
Because at the end of the day, it’s not about how you feel.
We all have things we need to work on.
We all have brokenness and baggage.
But guess what? Your emotions don't give you a license to dishonor someone.
 
And you most definitely don’t need to be taking your relationship problems to everyone else--
Not your friends.
Not your family.
Not your coworkers.
And absolutely not to another woman.
Looking for her opinion. Looking for comfort.
Looking for someone to tell you what you want to hear.
No. Just… no.
That right there? That’s a violation. That’s a doorway. That’s destruction.
You are stepping outside your covenant when you do that.
Honestly- you don't even need to take it to her if your spirit isn't right.
The 1st place it should go is to God.

To her, and to others,
you should be speaking love.
Speaking praise.
Because words are seeds.
And what you plant, you will harvest.
 
Here’s the real truth:
There’s a whole lot of men out here who need to grow up.
A whole lot of men with broken relationships and marriages that are falling apart
because they take their problems here and there,
looking for people who will agree with their thoughts
instead of holding them accountable.
 
You don’t take it to prayer.
You don’t ask God to search your heart.
You don’t even recognize that what you’ve been given is a gift.
So you ruin it.
Because of your pride.
Because of your ego.
Because of your obsession with being right.
With being respected.
 
But let me ask you something…
 
You want a crown?
You want to be treated like a king?
You want a robe and slippers?
 
Well, you don’t get back respect that you don’t earn.
If you can’t respect her emotions,
If you can’t guard her heart,
If you can’t respond in love when you feel offended,
Then what makes you think you deserve honor?
 
You don’t become a man by age.
You become a man by responsibility.
By accountability.
By surrender.
 
You're not a weak man.
You’re not some fragile little boy.
You are a man of God.
You’ve got the power of the Lord within you.
 
So act like it.
You're the lead. 
That doesn't mean you control her.
That means you cover her.
It means you go to God before her.
It means you let God lead...
Not your feelings.
Not your fears.
Not your friends.
Not your pride.

You're the head.
But even the head must bow to Christ.
 
The Word says, “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church.”
Do you remember how Christ loved the church?

Even when she betrayed HIM.
Even when she rejected HIM.
Even when she was unfaithful.
He still laid down HIS life.
 
And He still does.

That is the kind of love God is calling you to.
That is the kind of strength you carry.

Because you are not some weak little boy.
You are a strong man of God.
 
And yes, our minds are battlefields.
But don't forget:
the battle doesn’t belong to you.
It belongs to the Lord.
So when the negative thoughts come--
Don’t nurse them.
Don’t curse them.
Don’t rehearse them.
 
Surrender them.
Lay them at the feet of the one who fights for you.
 
Because every time you speak life, you build.
Every time you honor your woman, you protect.
Every time you choose humility, you lead.
Every time you go to God instead of gossip, you grow.

So rise up.
Be the man God called you to be.
And lead.....in love.
 
And listen—if you don’t know where to start?
If you’ve made a mess of it and want to rebuild?
 
There’s a book and movie called Fireproof.
It has a 40-day marriage challenge that’ll show you how to stop giving up
when things get hard.
Some of y’all need to humble yourselves and take that challenge.
It’s not just for marriages—it’s for men who want to love better.
 
So today, I’m challenging you:
Break free.
Grow up.
Act like the man of God you were called to be.
And love like Christ—because anything less is counterfeit.